In general, a slow heavy bullet will have less felt recoil than a light fast one.
Disagree. Unless the light one is over powdered or has an abrupt and high peak to its pressure curve it will have less recoil. Recoil is a function of momentum which tends to make heavier rounds recoil more heavily in a given caliber. That's holding everything constant, though, the manufacturers you're using may be loading it in that way or you're using a shortish barreled weapon.