Low recoil? Yes, you dont need any accesories for that because the recoil is very mild anyway. IF your wife is super sensitive you can get a limbsafer to make it even more comortable to shoot.
Low noise? Not really, of course its more quiet then a .308 but it still makes a good bang... A very long barrel reduces the noise a litle bit, not much but you can hear the difference. A silencer of course would make it quiet enough to shoot without hearing protection.
Look for a rifle with a long and heavy barrel (24" or longer) maybe threaded for a silencer. that should fit your needs.
If the .223 is still to much, get a .22 hornet.