You were a real man in admitting that. A lot of guys do the testosterone-driven posturing thing, and it's usually a sign that they're scared out of their wits and don't know how else to express it.
Maybe it's just my advancing age, but I've come to see that being gentle and compromising with my wife gets me a lot further than playing the alpha male, and that she respects my ability to protect her and ours just as much.
Try it, you may find it works. Speak softly and carry a big gun, to paraphrase someone.
I see males becoming more and more disposable whereas women seem to be in the ascendancy
Men only become disposable if they allow themselves to be, or show that they have no real value to anyone.