Furm no offense but that post reeks of alpha male testosterone. You can still be the alpha without being arrogant or too tough.
I'm 6'1 225lbs and dont back down from much unless its the SMART thing to do...and usually it is the smart thing to do. And I firmly believe in a 50-50 equality marriage. She is not better than me, barks orders at me, or expects diamonds and roses every week.....but its just not fair for me to have a $1k a year hobby while she barely gets out to go clothes/shoe shopping as much due to our baby.
Ive learned at 30 its all about compromise (not giving in, or puffing out me chest)