Look, I've had lots of handguns and was in a similar situation.
Czech out the CZ P01. It has quite a few features that make it easier to reload/fire under stress, such as an extended mag and slide release, beveled magwell, forged frame and very ergonomic grip. Light and compact enough for carry, accurate enough for general range use.
It also has a rail if you need to add a light or laser for HD use.
I had a 75bd for years and now realize the P01 has everything I was missing with the older model.