Go to a local gun store and try as many as many as you can. Down select to 4 or 5, then shoot them (if they'll let you, or find a place that will). The advice you get here is learned, but TFL hasn't figured out how measure your grip or other preferences. If we could, we'd put most of the gun stores out of business.
Good luck and welcome!
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