Congrats on your EMP.
My wife has the smallest hands I've ever seen on an adult. We shoot
USPSA and steel, and here is what works for her:
Colt 5" government model 9mm
Flat mainspring housing
Mitchell right side magazine release, she drops
the mag with her trigger finger.
Low pad safety from Brownells
She also has a 22/45 Ruger and Beretta Neos 22's, and a Kel-tec
P32 with a Crimson trace laser on it.
You are in Portland? We are just South of McMinnville. If you
would like some hands on range time with any of her guns, PM
me and we will figure it out.