In 9mm, the best I know of are the Kahrs, the CM9 being less expensive than the PM9, but being functionally about the same. Really nice triggers, accurate, very comfortable to shoot--the best at handling recoil I know of, in this class.
Both of mine were a bit finicky as to what they would feed, but so many others here claim to have no problems, who am I to say.
In .380, the Ruger LCP, in my experience, is the most reliable. Not finicky. I still have mine. The trigger smooths out over time, it's accurate at least to 7 yards even though no sights, and you can tame the recoil substantially with grip extensions from Ruger or Pearce Grip and with a Pacmayr Tactical Grip Glove slip-on.