Honoring ones boundries and deceit are definity two different things. Pocket carrying and just not telling her when she has stated you cannot ride in her car when armed strikes me as deceit. She has set her boundry, no guns in her car. If you want to carry, your boundry, then drive your car and meet her there, or you can drive, but it is your choice.
When the number of people in institutions reaches 51%, we change sides.