short answer to a long post (not that that is a bad thing...it is a good thread):
you are either going to give the guns to the woman who carried this son or you are going to keep the guns. It seems that it is your choice...if you are going to end up caving anyways then do it nonreluctantly
PS - we all know you can send the guns so excuses or fibs aren't necessary. make a decision and stick to it. "Don't complain, don't explain."
all the best
"Damn the torpedoes, full speed ahead!" -Admiral Farragut @ Battle of Mobile Bay 05AUG1864