Good (physiologically correct) advice to look somewhat away from the "blob" to let your rods do their thing in low light - 20 or 30 deg will do. I haven't flown at night in a while (as pilot-in-charge of a light plane) but doing this can help at times, trust me.
But yes, using a flashlight is better of course - just don't temporarily blind yourself with the darned thing ....
I keep a loaded (357 magnum) revolver in the bedside table. No kids. Like engine-out in a plane, you need to keep sharp by mentally practicing emergency scenarios.
And like everyone says, BEWARE THE FALSE POSITIVE !
I've learned a lot already from this forum (this is post #1). Think I'll stick around.