if someone is advancing angrily toward me with raised fists. I'm not going to wait to be pummeled before trying to defend myself.
I believe the presence of the 3-year old daughter would have a lot of weight,,,
It's not the OP that was in potential danger but the child as well.
But again, arm chair quarterbacking is futile.
Personally I believe the OP did the right thing,,,
If I and my young daughter were in the same position,,,
I would probably have pulled a handgun and let the jury decide.