Get as high a grip as possible. Grip the revolver firmly but not tight with your right hand (shooting right handed).
Many give this advice, but I've found that the highest grip possible puts the edge of the tang right into the web of the hand and thumps the crap out of it. Small snubbies, and larger revolvers, also.
Even Jerry Miculek says that lowering the grip so the gun can flex is appropriate for hard recoilers.
High grip, yes, but low enough so the gun can flex during recoil. Leave a little tang showing (try about 1/2 inch). Try it both ways and see for yourself.
For those who grip so high that the tang completely disappears, no problem if it works for them.