3kbs, I'm not mad. I am frustrated because I say one thing and you respond as if I've said something else entirely.
You're fighting windmills.
No one on this thread has actually disagreed with you on how life should be. The disagreement seems to be that you don't want to recognize how life is for many women, none of whom would be likely to be on this board.
If a woman IS on this board, she has already taken steps to insure that she can defend herself, or she wouldn't be here.