+100 on the "bitch" concept, Kathy.
I have two t-shirts I'm very fond of. One reads "Alpha Bitch" that I bought at a dog show. The other reads "I'm not A bitch, I'm THE bitch, and that's Ms. Bitch to you."
In over twenty years doing Greyhound rescue and adoption, caring for as many as 35 dogs at a time, I've learned a great deal about how a good Alpha Bitch operates. I hope to be a credit to my teachers.