you did good sparksie. your wife and baby are in good hands. the facts are quite obvious and clear. you acted as I would have in that situation, and, as many others here would as well. as for those that are so neck-deep in the toilet of crap where they live that this BG's behaviour could be seen as anything other than threatening, well, I feel sorry for them and would advise a relocation.
Max is, obviously, completely wrong. but that pattern has been demonstrated in other threads as well.