Types Of Dysfunctional Families
The following are some examples of patterns that frequently occur in dysfunctional families.
* One or both parents have addictions or compulsions (e.g., drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, gambling, overworking, and/or overeating) that have strong influences on family members.
* One or both parents use the threat or application of physical violence as the primary means of control. Children may have to witness violence, may be forced to participate in punishing siblings, or may live in fear of explosive outbursts.
* One or both parents exploit the children and treat them as possessions whose primary purpose is to respond to the physical and/or emotional needs of adults (e.g., protecting a parent or cheering up one who is depressed).
* One or both parents are unable to provide, or threaten to withdraw, financial or basic physical care for their children. Similarly, one or both parents fail to provide their children with adequate emotional support.
* One or both parents exert a strong authoritarian control over the children. Often these families rigidly adhere to a particular belief (religious, political, financial, personal). Compliance with role expectations and with rules is expected without any flexibility.
I deal with a lot of the latter. Many strict religious, military and leo families have children rebel in this manner. Being in a dysfunctional family is very common. So is the denial.
"Among other causes of misfortune which your not being armed brings upon you, it makes you despised...."
___ Niccolo Machiavelli