If you are seeing pressure signs in 45 primers you are over rated pressures by a TON, and WAY outside of any published data. Unlikely.
On the 357, you can get false indications of pressure from very simple things like an enlarged firing pin hole.
Guns used, problems observed and load data would help to find the problem if you care to share that information.
There is not one complete source of data, you really need two quality manuals and three of them is even better.