Reloading isn't rocket science. If it were rocket science, there wouldn't be so many of us near-illiterates doing it so much.
If you ever work out your "problems", you'll probably find that reloading offers you a much-needed therapeutic benefit.
Can't help you with your accountability-to-your-wife-for-your-spare-time situation, but I can recommend a great lawyer who can. He's so good, I'd almost get married again, just to see him work one more time.